Somewhere along the way, you received a set of rules:

About how much space you were allowed to take. How loud you were permitted to be. Whether your ideas deserved a room, or just a quiet corner of your own mind where they couldn't get anyone in trouble.

These rules didn't arrive as rules. They arrived as the natural atmosphere of the environment you grew up in, in what got rewarded and what went quiet, in who got celebrated and who got corrected, in the version of you that made things easier for everyone else.

You learned them so early, and so thoroughly, that they stopped feeling like rules at all. They started feeling like you.

They aren't.

What This Session Is About

This session is about something meeting the part of you that is still following instructions from an authority figure who may no longer be in your life — or who, even if they are, no longer has the right to run it.

That part is usually young. It made a very intelligent decision, at a very young age, to change itself in order to stay safe and loved. It has been keeping that promise ever since.

This session speaks to that part directly to offer it something it may never have received: the information that things have changed. That you are here now. That you have resources and choices and an entirely different life than the one it was protecting you inside of.

And the permission finally, gently, to put the old rules down.

How to Use This Session

Find somewhere private. Headphones on. Sit. You don't need to concentrate or try to make anything happen, just listen. The subconscious will do what it does.

Best time: evening before bed or first thing in the morning. Allow yourself 10-15 minutes afterward to simply be before returning to your day.

A Note on What This Isn't

This session will not tell you to cut anyone out of your life or make any external changes. It will not manufacture forgiveness you don't feel or bypass grief that is real.

It will simply begin to restore what has always been true: that you are the authority on your own life. That the rules you inherited were one person's rules, from one environment, at one moment in time.

And that you are allowed, now, to write new ones.