Visibility and Access Are Two Different Things

Most people who struggle with visibility developed it in specific environments where being noticed had specific consequences.

Perhaps being seen meant being criticized, where visibility invited scrutiny that felt impossible to satisfy.

Perhaps being noticed meant being needed, where standing out triggered demands on your time, energy, or emotional resources that you couldn't always meet.

Perhaps being watched meant losing autonomy, where other people's attention came with their opinions, their interference, and their attempts to manage or redirect what you were doing.

The nervous system logged all of it.