Over the next few months, I'm releasing a 12-session series designed to dismantle these patterns at the subconscious level.

We'll rewire:

• Self-erasure for safety (shrinking, staying too long, fearing retaliation)

• Externalized authority (needing validation from outside)

• Distorted relational gravity (being drawn to withholding, dominant people)

• Chronic vigilance (hyper-perfectionism, over-responsibility, inability to rest)

Understanding the Pattern Isn't Enough

Your conscious mind gets it. You've analyzed the pattern. You've talked about it in therapy.

But the part of you that's actually running the self-sabotage? That part lives in your subconscious.

And your subconscious doesn't respond to insight. It responds to pattern interruption.

Even when the nervous system no longer has something to chase, that doesn’t mean it hasn’t yet learned how to just be. The tension that once created purpose dissolves, and unless something new, and something nourishing, fills that space, the mind mistakes peace for nothingness. But this “nothing” is not emptiness. It’s space, and it’s the exact space where new creation begins.

When you’re used to helping, fixing, caring, or doing, having something, or someone, simply show up ready to meet you can feel destabilizing, almost like a quiet loss of identity.

Because if you’re not the one holding everything together…

who are you now?