The Authority Pattern: Why Leaders Still Seek Permission
Why Leaders Still Seek Permission
Over the next few months, we're exploring something I call The Authority Pattern, the unconscious imprints that shape how you relate to power, approval, and permission.
These patterns often originate in childhood, shaped by your earliest experiences with authority figures.
But they show up everywhere:
With bosses and leaders
With romantic partners
With clients and collaborators
And most importantly, with yourself
This series is about recognizing the unconscious patterns still running in your nervous system and rewiring them.
The authority Pattern
You might recognize yourself in these patterns:
Shrinking to keep the peace
Staying too long in situations that don't serve you
Seeking external validation before taking action
Playing small to avoid retaliation
Confusing intensity with connection
Feeling "chosen" only when you're useful or compliant
These aren't character flaws. They're unconscious patterns, formed early, and reinforced over time.
And they’re running on autopilot: in how you lead, how you show up in relationships, and how you claim your power.
These patterns don't respond to insight. They respond to rewiring.
What We're Rewiring
Over 12 sessions, broken into three 4-part series, we'll address:
1. Self-erasure for safety
Shrinking, staying too long, or fearing retaliation if you leave or shine
2. Externalized authority
Believing validation must come from outside, or that success means exposure to attack
3. Distorted relational gravity
Being drawn to dominant, withholding, or emotionally unavailable people
4. Chronic vigilance
Hyper-perfectionism, over-responsibility, or difficulty resting in ease
These patterns live in your body. Not your mind. Not your story. Your nervous system.
That's why talk therapy didn't fix them. And that's why hypnosis does.
This Series is For You If:
✓ You shrink yourself to keep the peace
✓ You stay too long in relationships, jobs, or situations that don't serve you
✓ You're drawn to people who withhold approval or affection
✓ You feel "chosen" only when you're useful or compliant
✓ You're hyper-responsible, perfectionistic, or constantly self-monitoring
✓ You struggle to rest, receive, or trust that goodness won't be taken away
✓ You fear being seen or exposed when you succeed
✓ You can't leave dynamics without guilt or fear of retaliation
You don't need to have had a difficult childhood for these patterns to be true. Many of my clients have great relationships with their families.
You just need to be willing to look at what's running under the surface and rewire it.
How This Works
12 sessions. 12 core shifts.
Each week, you'll get:
A 20-30 minute hypnotic audio session
A blog post explaining the pattern and the shift
Integration practices (optional but powerful)
This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is subconscious rewiring.
You don't have to process, talk, or even fully understand. You just listen, and your nervous system does the rest.
Part 1 begins February 19th.
If you're ready to stop seeking permission and start leading from your own authority, this series is for you.
