When Receiving Feels Unfamiliar

Has this ever happened to you?

You’ve been doing the work. You’re healing. You’re letting yourself receive.

And finally, what you’ve been asking for arrives, be it the love, the opportunity, the peace, and suddenly, you’re… not sure what to do with it.

It’s strange, isn’t it?

When you’re used to helping, fixing, caring, or doing, having something, or someone, simply show up ready to meet you can feel destabilizing, almost like a quiet loss of identity.

Because if you’re not the one holding everything together…

who are you now?

I had a client recently tell me about this exact moment.

Her dream man had shown up. He was steady, emotionally available, self-aware, and everything she’d asked for. And yet, she kept getting triggered.

When she saw her old type, someone who needed saving, she felt an old, familiar pull. Not because she wanted him, but because she knew that role. She knew how to shape and fix him. She knew how the story would play out, where the fights would begin, and even how it would end.

With her dream partner, though, she didn’t know who to be. He didn’t need saving; he just wanted her to show up. And yet, her nervous system was still scanning for danger, searching for imbalance, and looking for something to fix.

This is what happens when you start receiving what you’ve asked for: You meet the edges of your old identity.

Because the version of you that learned to survive through doing, helping, or controlling has never known how to feel safe in simply being loved, supported, or held.

And so the next layer of receiving work is this: Learning to stay open when it’s good. And then letting yourself keep breathing when ease feels foreign.

Our final session in The Receiving Code explores worthiness, because for many of us, this is where the story began.

Somewhere along the way, we placed our faith in someone unreliable, be it a parent, a partner, a system, and when that faith broke, we turned inward. We decided: I’ll only rely on me. And while that kept us safe, it also cut us off from the natural flow of life.

I see it all the time with business owners and high achievers. They fear getting sick or taking a break because they don’t know who to rely on. They’re used to being the source, not being sourced.

And so this week’s work is about gently moving our faith back. So we can feel safe letting life hold us again. So we can feel worthy of the ease, the love, the support that’s already trying to reach us.

Because sometimes, the hardest part of receiving isn’t opening the door; it’s staying open once the blessing walks in.

If you’re ready to explore this more deeply, Anchored in Trust inside The Lucid Hour is the hypnosis session I created to support exactly this moment: the tender edge between control and surrender, between doing it all alone and letting life hold you.

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